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Does a magic kiss from mom really heal?

Posted by Jeremy Paris on May 13, 2009

I was listening to an old CD this week on my long commute to work from my new home.  Optimistically, I get 45 minutes of quality audio-book or audio-course time.  Of course on days that I am driving my 7 year old to school we opt for the local country station…but I digress.

The CD was from one of Anthony Robbins courses and it included an interview with Deepak Chopra.  Deepak spoke of studies that were done in which people were given stimulants but told they were barbituits.  Not only did the person behave like he was on barbituits, but his body reacted like he was on barbituits.  Apparently whatever the mind thinks is real the body reacts to.  He also said there were people that were given a placebo and told it was a powerful chemo drug for cancer and their hair started falling out and gums started bleeding and everything.

This made me think about children.  When a child gets hurt or falls down, what is the parents reaction?  “Come here I’ll kiss it and make it better”.  Us adults laugh at the naive nature of the children, but if what Deepak says is true, then that kiss by the parent IS really making that boo boo better.  And the difference between that kiss being an ordinary kiss and a magic kiss all comes down to sales. 

What are your thoughts on this?  If you didn’t know, that’s what my comments section is for.  ;-P

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Why we blame others

Posted by Jeremy Paris on April 8, 2009

My son was on “yellow” today at school.  For those of you who don’t know, there is a daily discipline chart for 1st graders that uses the colors of a street-light to tell the parents if they were good (green), bad (red), or somewhere in between (yellow).   Back in my day they had a similar chart, but it was black and blue…and it was on your backside.  If you were bad your chart would be black and blue…but I digress.

I asked him why he was on yellow and immediately he started with “…well Johnny was the one who…”.  You get the idea.  I then asked him why every time I question him why he’s not on green his answer is always due to someone else.  Reply “…but it really was Johnny”.  This made me start thinking about whether blaming someone or something else is a learned trait, or are we born with this skill genetically imprinted in our brains the way that dogs know to eat grass when they aren’t feeling well.  And at what point do we realize we are doing it and stop it.

After thinking about this for a few minutes it dawned on me that I used this skill as recently as that same freaking hour!  Unbelievable!  My beautiful wife was getting on my case for the shotty paint job I did cutting-in on the walls at our new house.  Immediately I blamed it on the fact that I didn’t have the metal edge tool that I wanted to buy from Home Depot.  Then I deflected the blame over to the fact that I had taped it and the tape didn’t work.  Luckily my survival skills kicked in before I was able to shift the blame on her.

So why is it so blatantly obvious that my 7 year old is doing it, but oblivious to me that I am?  Anthony Robbins says it’s because everything we do in life is motivated by either avoiding pain or seeking pleasure.  Makes sense to me.

How do we stop it?  Bring it into the light.  Focus on it.  The next time you are backed into a corner try to recognize it and take responsibility.  In the above example I could have said “I’m sorry baby…I will try to put more effort into painting the next room”.

Now it’s your turn.  Think about how many fights will be stopped in their tracks if you start a new habit of accepting the blame.  For the next 14 days make it a personal challenge to seek out opportunities to accept the blame.  I’m positive that you will find some…well maybe not you Jesus…but the rest of us will.

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Does this STRESS make me look fat?

Posted by Jeremy Paris on March 13, 2009

Told ya it was from stress...now pass the donuts

Told ya it was from stress...now pass the donuts

Yes…it’s not the DRESS that is making you look fat…it’s the STRESS!

Research shows that your body does not distinguish between the stress of running from a bear or from trying to meet your boss’s unreasonable deadlines. To your body it’s ALL stress. To help you escape from that bear, your body will increase your heart rate, lower your sensitivity to pain, and increase the amount of Cortisol secreted by the adrenal glands. Cortisol, also known as “the stress hormone”, increases the flow of glucose, fat, and protein into your bloodstream to help with your fight or flight situation.

So Cortisol is good…if you are running from a bear. But if you are sitting in a cubicle all day, then this chronic stress can lead to fat around the abdomen. And this isn’t the ordinary “under the skin” fat. This is Visceral fat, which is the bad stuff that lead to heart attacks and strokes. This is why people have been saying “stress kills”.

Here’s the good news: Stress isn’t bad in spurts. It’s constant stress that’s the killer. So break up your stressful day by exercising. Get some resistance bands, like the ones in the upper right corner of this screen, and pull them out of your briefcase when you feel the stress mounting. After a couple quick sets you will feel the stress start melting away. If the boss man starts giving you flack about working out in your cubicle, take it outside! No, you Neanderthal, I didn’t mean punch him in the nose…go outside for a “smoke break”. If that loud mouth down the hall can take ten 7 minute smoke breaks a day I’m sure you can get away with one or two.

Don’t worry about your co-workers seeing you. Just send them to my blog and don’t be surprised if they aren’t out there joining you for a mini 7-minute workout session.

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Getting a good treadmill workout is an UPHILL battle

Posted by Jeremy Paris on March 12, 2009

Up the incline!

Up the incline!

Raise your hand if you hate running on a treadmill.  Ok, not all of you, but a good number.  I LOVE running outdoors, but when it’s cold out I’m a big wuss.  Yes, I am from Buffalo, and I did spend 3 years in Alaska…but I still hate the cold.  So what’s a guy to do when you are unwilling to run in the cold?!?  Treadmill.

Why do I dislike it so much?  Well, I don’t get the spiritual benefit that I do being out in nature for one.  But mainly, it doesn’t seem to help me when I’m on the pavement.  I spent 2 months a couple of winters ago running religiously on a treadmill so that I would be in good running shape in the spring.  I’d be running on that damn treadmill and sweating my butt off.  But when I started running on the pavement in the spring it was as if I had not ran at all over the winter.  I could barely do a mile before my legs were burning and my heart was pounding through my chest. 

Why does this happen?  I have no idea.  Please use my comments section to fill me in.  I did try something new though, and I’m hoping that it will help me this spring.  When on the treadmill, I will start off flat, and every 30 seconds I will bump it up 1 on the incline until I can’t go any higher.  Then I bring it down 1 at a time.  I really feel like I’m getting a workout when I do this…but we will see if it helps any in a couple weeks. 

Please…any better ideas, let me know.

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Screw Ovaltine…Drink your nice hot Creatine!

Posted by Jeremy Paris on March 10, 2009

Ok, Ok, You can drink your creatine IN your Ovaltine

No, you won’t get a handy dandy secret decoder ring from drinking creatine, but you will get a slew of benefits.  They range from increased muscle strength and endurance, to reducing cholesterol by up to 15%.  Studies are being conducted on the therapeutic effects of creatine for diseases such as Parkinson’s Disease, Huntington’s Disease, and even muscular dystrophy (MD).  As a parent of a child with diabetes, I am especially interested in the fact that creatine has been known to moderate glucose levels in patients with diabetes.

Yes, I hear you.  All together now “Tell me something I don’t know”.  Well, since you asked…did you know that creatine is better absorbed and useful to your body if you drink it in a warm beverage such as hot tea?  Add a teaspoon of sugar and you will get that small “spike” in insulin to help it get into the muscle cells.  Be careful though not to make the water too hot.  Boiling water will destroy the creatine, so make sure it is drinkable before adding the powder. 

I use tea, but it’s only because I’m “off the coffee”.  Put it in whatever you like, but make sure it’s at least warm.  You will lose 65% of the creatine if you put it in something cold. 

One blog is not enough for you to decide if you are going to start taking a new supplement.  So do your research.  There’s TONS of it out there.  Don’t be lazy, it will take you like 15 min. 

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This workout will get you CUT…from the Cowboys

Posted by Jeremy Paris on March 6, 2009

 

Wait...youre saying you dont lift wieghts?!?

Wait...you're saying you don't lift wieghts?!?

What?  Too soon?  🙂

 

Yeah, we have all heard by now that T.O. has been cut from the Cowboys.  I personally think it’s a mistake and hope my hometown team (Go Bills) gets a shake at him.  Yes, he’s controversial, he doesn’t color inside the lines…but he also caught more touchdown passes than Randy Moss in the last 3 years…more than anyone actually.  He’s fast, he’s got great hands, and nobody can argue his extremely high level of fitness.

After reading a blog about his diet, I decided to do a search to see what his workout was like.  I was FLOORED when I saw that he doesn’t workout with weights.  That’s right…he uses resistance bands.  Crazy right?!?  Furthermore…he has his own branded workout bands out there.  I just HAD to see these.  How different can resistance bands be…what did he do, sign his name on them with a Sharpie?  😛

Yeah…I was wrong again.  These bands are freakin GENIUS!  I can’t believe nobody has done this before.  The bands have carabeaner-type clips on the ends and clip to the handles.  Then you get a bunch of different size bands.  So you can use one 7 lb. band, or a 7 lb. and a 30 lb, or….actually tons of different combinations that give you 1 – 2 lb increments all the way up to working out at T.O.’s level.  The best part about it is that you can buy the package for like $50. 

I immediately decided that I was going to start endorsing this product.  I am giving serious thought to stopping my P90X routine dead in it’s tracks and jump on to this one.  One of the main reasons is that I don’t have to do a 90 minute workout every day.  If I only have 15 min….I can workout a whole body part fully.  The  other benefit is that they are so small and light that I can take them with me in a backpack and workout anywhere I happen to be.  Want more info?  Click below!!!

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Your children eating crap? Sneek in the protein!

Posted by Jeremy Paris on March 5, 2009

I have a very finicky 7 year old at home who eats very little other than cereal.  This made me start combing Google to find out what other parents are doing to help their children to grow up healthy.

I came across this product called Liquid Egg Whites.  It’s pasturized so it has the consistancy of milk, but it’s 100% egg whites.  After reading every page on the website I couldn’t believe how incredible this product was.  Apparently you can mix 1/2 cup of this product with a 1/2 cup of milk, and children won’t know the difference.  You can put it in their cereal, giving them 13 grams of protein.  Is that crazy or what.  Check it out for yourself!

Don’t forget to come back and let me know what you thought of it!

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Water…Nature’s Energy Drink

Posted by Jeremy Paris on March 4, 2009

Boost energy with this new drink...Water!
Boost energy with this new drink…Water!

Research shows that for every 1% of water weight that we lose, our ability to

“do work” decreases by 10%.  That “work” may be exercising, hammering nails, taking a test, or even making love. 

As an illustration, lets say you are a male who weighs 175 lbs…like me, and is 75% water.  I’m around 131 lbs of water.  If I lose 1.3 pounds of water, my ability to write this blog diminishes by 10%.  Sorry guys, I might already be there. 
If you want to perform at your best all the time, make sure to keep the water flowing every day.  Over 75% of Americans are chronically dehydrated.  So if you start downing that water, you will be among the elite 25% that is firing on all cylinders. 
Drink up!

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Blog Categories

Posted by Jeremy Paris on February 24, 2009

Welcome to my new blog. I will be updating it regularly with new posts in a few different categories, but all dealing with self-improvement in one way, shape, or form.

Rome wasn’t built in a day, Neither Was Paris. I am “Paris”…well, that’s my name anyway. Becoming the person I want to be will take time. In fact, the truth is that I will never get there because my real desire is the journey of continued self-improvement. None of us are perfect, and therefore we always have room for improvement.

Think about some of the things that you would like to improve about yourself. I’ll get you started by telling you some of mine. I would like to be a better father; a better spouse (will be married in less than a month); better at personal finances; a better Christian; and in better physical shape. I’ll be blogging about some of these and more…and will put them into tidy little categories for you OCD types (you know who you are).

Leave a comment telling me what you would like to improve. It might just be something I’ve not even thought about, and can start a new category just for that topic.

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