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Does a magic kiss from mom really heal?

Posted by Jeremy Paris on May 13, 2009

I was listening to an old CD this week on my long commute to work from my new home.  Optimistically, I get 45 minutes of quality audio-book or audio-course time.  Of course on days that I am driving my 7 year old to school we opt for the local country station…but I digress.

The CD was from one of Anthony Robbins courses and it included an interview with Deepak Chopra.  Deepak spoke of studies that were done in which people were given stimulants but told they were barbituits.  Not only did the person behave like he was on barbituits, but his body reacted like he was on barbituits.  Apparently whatever the mind thinks is real the body reacts to.  He also said there were people that were given a placebo and told it was a powerful chemo drug for cancer and their hair started falling out and gums started bleeding and everything.

This made me think about children.  When a child gets hurt or falls down, what is the parents reaction?  “Come here I’ll kiss it and make it better”.  Us adults laugh at the naive nature of the children, but if what Deepak says is true, then that kiss by the parent IS really making that boo boo better.  And the difference between that kiss being an ordinary kiss and a magic kiss all comes down to sales. 

What are your thoughts on this?  If you didn’t know, that’s what my comments section is for.  ;-P

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Why we blame others

Posted by Jeremy Paris on April 8, 2009

My son was on “yellow” today at school.  For those of you who don’t know, there is a daily discipline chart for 1st graders that uses the colors of a street-light to tell the parents if they were good (green), bad (red), or somewhere in between (yellow).   Back in my day they had a similar chart, but it was black and blue…and it was on your backside.  If you were bad your chart would be black and blue…but I digress.

I asked him why he was on yellow and immediately he started with “…well Johnny was the one who…”.  You get the idea.  I then asked him why every time I question him why he’s not on green his answer is always due to someone else.  Reply “…but it really was Johnny”.  This made me start thinking about whether blaming someone or something else is a learned trait, or are we born with this skill genetically imprinted in our brains the way that dogs know to eat grass when they aren’t feeling well.  And at what point do we realize we are doing it and stop it.

After thinking about this for a few minutes it dawned on me that I used this skill as recently as that same freaking hour!  Unbelievable!  My beautiful wife was getting on my case for the shotty paint job I did cutting-in on the walls at our new house.  Immediately I blamed it on the fact that I didn’t have the metal edge tool that I wanted to buy from Home Depot.  Then I deflected the blame over to the fact that I had taped it and the tape didn’t work.  Luckily my survival skills kicked in before I was able to shift the blame on her.

So why is it so blatantly obvious that my 7 year old is doing it, but oblivious to me that I am?  Anthony Robbins says it’s because everything we do in life is motivated by either avoiding pain or seeking pleasure.  Makes sense to me.

How do we stop it?  Bring it into the light.  Focus on it.  The next time you are backed into a corner try to recognize it and take responsibility.  In the above example I could have said “I’m sorry baby…I will try to put more effort into painting the next room”.

Now it’s your turn.  Think about how many fights will be stopped in their tracks if you start a new habit of accepting the blame.  For the next 14 days make it a personal challenge to seek out opportunities to accept the blame.  I’m positive that you will find some…well maybe not you Jesus…but the rest of us will.

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Your children eating crap? Sneek in the protein!

Posted by Jeremy Paris on March 5, 2009

I have a very finicky 7 year old at home who eats very little other than cereal.  This made me start combing Google to find out what other parents are doing to help their children to grow up healthy.

I came across this product called Liquid Egg Whites.  It’s pasturized so it has the consistancy of milk, but it’s 100% egg whites.  After reading every page on the website I couldn’t believe how incredible this product was.  Apparently you can mix 1/2 cup of this product with a 1/2 cup of milk, and children won’t know the difference.  You can put it in their cereal, giving them 13 grams of protein.  Is that crazy or what.  Check it out for yourself!

Don’t forget to come back and let me know what you thought of it!

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